"I have chosen you..." (John 15:16 KJV) Divorce. How did we get to this point? We did not fall out of love because we did not fall in love to begin with. Unless yours was a marriage of convenience, there was love involved at some time. You chose to love that spouse and you chose to accept love from that spouse. You likely exchanged some solemn vows along those lines too.

So how did we get to this point? If we chose to love and be loved, it follows logically that at some point we also chose not to love, nor to accept their love in return. I don't remember this happening. I didn't wake up one morning and choose not to love my spouse anymore. I didn't one day just decide I would no longer accept love from my spouse. Maybe we are victims of our spouse choosing not to love us anymore. Maybe we still love deeply but we are stuck with the consequences of the choice our spouse made. However it happened, it is rejection, and it hurts.

In John 15, Jesus is reaching out to some very unhappy disciples. "I have chosen you" is a great comfort. When we accept God's free gift of salvation through faith, we become His own children. We have been chosen by God Himself. Paul repeated this in Colossians 3:12. It does not matter whether you feel like it or not. It does not matter whether you think you are worth loving. He has chosen you.